Hi, I'm sorry you're here.
You are not alone.
My name is Gabriel. I am dad to three miscarriages, one stillborn daughter, an energetic six year old son, and a newborn rainbow baby.
Our stories likely differ but we share in the same pain. Sadly, there are many of us. I'm sorry we ever had to meet.
What is this Care Package?
This Care Package is an online, video-based resource I created as a starting point to help in the healing process.
I'm so thankful to the specially chosen handful of peers below for walking with us through our grief.
More than simply sharing their stories of loss, we learn practical ways to start understanding our pain, coping with our grief, and taking steps to grow beyond our loss.
How does it work?
You will receive four emails sent over one week. Each email includes the videos and I share more of my story. They will be in your inbox when you're ready to view them.
The DAY 1 videos will be in your inbox immediately after you click 'Please send me a Care Package'.
Such a great idea with the care package. Super important to get help from people who « survived ».
My story is very similar to yours… Just wanted you to know that what you’re doing has helped me… so massive thank you!
Meet the Presenters
Who We Are As a Griever, and How Knowing Helps
Mitch lost his son, Kelly, to cancer in 1987.
Author of, Letters to My Son, Turning Loss to Legacy, Mitch leads Proactive Grieving seminars that feature the STAIRS model of grief processing. He also supports the bereaved through his radio show, Grief Chat, and his YouTube channel, MrHeartlight.
Mitch takes a holistic approach to grief processing, focusing on balancing the mind, body, soul and spirit to reduce anxiety and build resilience.
Bob Baugher, PhD.
Crying, Guilt and How to Know We're Getting Better
Bob teaches courses in Psychology and Death Education at Highline Community College in Des Moines, Washington. He has held over 600 workshops on grief and loss all around the world, and has written seven books on the bereavement process.
Rebuilding with Work and the People Around Us
Glen is dad to seven miscarriages. His son, Noah, died due to medical error in 1999.
Glen founded The Grief Toolbox and the Walking Through Grief program when he saw there was a need for genuine, accurate grief information. He is the past president of the National Board of Directors of The Compassionate Friends. Glen is now co-founder and CEO of the International Grief Institute, which provides a variety of grief educational opportunities.
Finding Laughter and Power Grieving
Bart's son, David, died in 2009 from a severe brain injury suffered while playing football.
He is the founder of the non-profit, Healing Improv, which provides no-cost comedy improv grief workshops to those struggling with the pain of their loss. He is also the author of the book, Healing Improv: A Journey Through Grief to Laughter, where he shares his personal journey with grief and walks us through improv exercises used in his workshops.
Baby Loss from a Mom's Perspective, and Pregnancy After Loss
Amanda's twins, Nate and Sam, were stillborn at 36 weeks.
Since joining the world of baby loss, Amanda has become dedicated to furthering research into stillbirth and neonatal death, as well as the unique parenting and relationship challenges for baby loss mothers.
Amanda is author of Joy at the End of the Rainbow: A Guide to Pregnancy After a Loss. A mother to two successful rainbow pregnancies, daughter Rebecca and son Alex, her guide helps to manage your anxiety as you anticipate the arrival of your rainbow child.
Carolyn Lemen and Jennifer Lang
Creative Outlets to Process Grief, Pain, Guilt and Anger
Carolyn Lemen is a board-certified music therapist and runs Wings on Wheels Illinois. With a love of music and her desire to work with and help people, Carolyn pursued her master's degree in music therapy at Maryville University. She has also been involved in numerous camps and retreats to support bereaved families.
Jennifer Lang pursued a master's degree in counselling because of her passion for understanding the human psyche and family systems. As an expressive therapy licensed counsellor, she incorporates her creative art techniques into her therapeutic approach to help families in the communities BJC Hospice serves.
In August 2017, I had a first trimester miscarriage during my first pregnancy. Although my husband and I had never even seen a picture of this baby, as baby didn't make it to the first scan, we loved them so much. It hit my husband and I hard. We've now got our rainbow baby but often think of our first. I've shared your site with my husband and hope it'll help us keep moving forward. Thank you for sharing your raw experiences with us. It helps those who haven't walked this journey understand and the rest of us not feel so alone.
How much does this Care Package cost?
Can anyone receive a Care Package?
Yes. The talks are catered to dads of miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss, but I understand that dads of loss thrive with supportive family and friends.
If you're a partner, family member or friend, you'll gain valuable insight into their grief and how to support them in their healing.
Why is it sent over the course of one week via email?
Googling can be overwhelming. It was for me.
I don't want to swamp you with too much information too fast.
As a short, focused series of email videos, you'll always have access to it in your inbox, to view when you have time and refer back if you wish.
Personally, it's how I would want to receive this support.
I hope it helps.
I feel like you're telling our story. Down to the shopping for post birth bits. It's very comforting. Thank you for sharing your story.
You’re so kind doing this. Dads like you will never know how much you help the rest of us dads. Thank you.